I really hate it when people...well, no, not hate it.
What I am is very disappointed when people don't update their blogs regularly. After all, what's the point of having a blog if you're not going to update it regularly?
Sadly, if you look at the dates of my entries, you’ll notice I’m one of those people. It’s kind of disheartening, the number of things that annoy me in other people that I also do. It’s also humbling, and if you pay attention, a wonderful reminder to be humble and a little less judgmental. If you start throwing stones, you might find yourself getting dinged in the head.
I used to know a wise man who helped me understand the cost we pay for judging other people. When you enter the place of judgment—which is where you go when you start pointing fingers at other people—you’re entirely there. You can’t be there just to judge other people. You end up judging yourself, just as harshly.
Now, these judgments might not be clear or conscious. You might not think, “Oh what a lazy bum you are for not blogging more often.” But in the back of your head, I’d be willing to bet you are making that kind of judgment.
Mind you, I’m not advocating any kind of denial. People do things that annoy me, disappoint me, infuriate me. The trick is to recognize the emotion and it’s true trigger—what someone did, not who that person is. Approaching life’s annoyances this way keeps me out of the place of judgment. The other benefit is that I generally feel better, lighter, less clenched up with resentment and anger. I expect there’s a little magical thinking going on: If I focus on how I feel and not on what a buckethead the other person is, I’m not ill-wishing them.
And that’s the surprising thought that came out of the realization I’m just as guilty of blog-slacking as anyone else . . .
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3 comments:
Katy,
You're so conscientious. :-) Me, I say, "I'm on deadline. Not going to post on my blog until I'm out from under." And feel almost no guilt whatsoever.
OTOH, it doesn't particularly irritate me when people don't update their blogs. I'll just subscribe and check the feeds every once in a while.
However, since I only discovered your blog today (don't know why I didn't know about it earlier), I have a lot more to read than you do.
Define regularly. If I update my blog once a month without fail, that's a regular update. Frequently? Not so much.
Those are both excellent points...
I suppose disappointed is probably the truest word for what I feel...and that's balanced out by happiness when there's a new posting...
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